Our Holistic Approach to
the Problems that Separated
Fathers Routinely Face
We can help you, no matter where you live in western civilization. We don't re-invent, we teach fathers the skills and attributes of divorced dads who have succeeded.
Applying our strategies, tactics, systems and approach to thinking will lead you in the correct direction. Know and believe that it is possible to win both inside and outside of Family Court, whether you are in negotiations, mediation or heading into Family Court proceedings.
There are three levels of difficulties fathers
face during separation / divorce.
And it all begins with one simple principle...
Your Legal Problems do not create
Your Family Problems create Legal Problems...
Family Problems can ultimately lead to a very messy separation and divorce. When this happens most fathers do not have the right level of experience, knowledge, peer mentoring / support, and management skills and your situation can go awry very quickly. Our services are a holistic approach, based on the success we have built with the fathers we have assisted for over 15 years.
How to unravel your problems...
We bring a lifetime of experience in unraveling these problems. Like an onion, your problems consist of three layers:
1. The Seed 2. The Onion itself 3. The Onion skin
FIRST LAYER OF YOUR PROBLEM
The Family Problems
The first layer, or "The Seed" are your family problems, the dynamics involved and your personal history of how you find yourself in this situation. Everything you learned in your own family as a child, whatever rebellion set in as a teenager, and whatever choices you made as an adult led you to this moment. If you ignore this fact, you will spend a lot of money fighting in Family Court needlessly, and most likely keep on repeating the same pattern of failed relationships with your next partner/wife.
SECOND LAYER OF YOUR PROBLEM
The Knowledge / Experience Gap
The second layer is the "Knowledge/Experience Gap". You don't have the skills to successfully manage the situation. If you did there would not be a problem in the first place. You would have made better choices, had a longer courtship, used better language to communicate and tried better ways to negotiate. Now your problem has escalated to the point where you have no other option but to educate yourself about Family Law, Family Court, how to find a GREAT lawyer with the right experience and track record helping fathers succeed during separation and divorce.
THIRD LAYER OF YOUR PROBLEM
Your Legal Problems
The third layer are your legal problems... for this layer you will need a really GREAT lawyer with experience and a track record helping fathers succeed during separation and divorce. Most fathers do not realize they need an experienced family law specialist nor how to find one.
HOW THIS MODEL WORKS
Your Family problems cause your "Knowledge/Experience Gap" to widen. Without the right tools to properly manage your situation, you begin having legal problems. The longer you ignore the Family problems, the more education you will need, and as a consequence your legal problems begin to mount and escalate in the interim while you get up to speed.
This is important... Women initiate separation and divorce 75% of the time, and men are usually playing catch up, hoping against hope that it will go away or solve itself and the marriage will survive. We call this the "Hope against Hope Syndrome". Men will often bury their heads in the sand hoping they can either ride out the storm, or that a miracle will save them.
Men can also suffer from "White Knight Syndrome". It's an old trait of days gone by, where they want to rescue their damsel in distress, when they do not recognize that she has become the devil in disguise, willing to do whatever it takes to win.
"White Knight Syndrome" men are in denial and
have no clear picture of the reality...
And sadly, they often don't wake up until they have lost it all...
THE SOLUTIONS WE OFFER
Your situation does not have to be this way - there are alternative solutions that have worked for the many fathers with whom we have worked. All it takes is the strength of character to educate yourself and implement the separation / divorce management skills that we have been teaching fathers for over 15 years.
Separation / divorce management counseling and coaching will help you optimize your chances of success. Think of it like this: If you were a "star athlete", you would have a manager and a coach. The manager takes care of optimizing the business of being a "star athlete", and the coach takes care of optimizing your performance as a "star athlete".
In our approach, the lawyer is your "agent" taking care of the legal business, while we work with you as a "coach" to help you optimize your approach an situation outside of the Family Court. Our coaching program strategies and tactics teach you everything you need to know and do to become a successful father after separation/divorce.
THE TRUTH ABOUT FAMILY COURT
Family Court and the Legal System will not micromanage the solutions to your Family Problems - that is your job. When all is said and done, the Family Court, the Judge, the Lawyers, the Assessors, the Children's Lawyer and anyone else involved professionally will eventually go away, and leave you with what the Legal System has decided. In the final analysis, you, your children and your ex-wife will still have many, many challenges ahead.
WHAT IS AT STAKE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
Children suffer the greatest loss. That's the reality that you face - and it is not one that is often explained by the legal community to moms and dads alike. Children may view their parents as being hypocritical. Most children cannot properly articulate their problems and feelings and begin acting out: school grades drop, they hang with the wrong crowd, their behavior begins to escalate into lying, cheating and stealing. Many children are misunderstood and will act out their pain in extreme ways through juvenile delinquency, truancy, promiscuity, alcohol/drug abuse and addiction.
It all leads to a dysfunctional future. They are unable to complete their education in the more extreme cases; unable to form successful relationships with the opposite sex and in later life they are at greater risk of the same family breakdown.
YOUR ROLE AS YOUR CHILD'S ADVOCATE
Your role as dad is to advocate for your child's right to peace within their family. Ultimately this is in their best interests. Often we've found that it's not having the right tools that prevents fathers from reaching a successful relationship with their children.
We have developed time-tested systems, and have gathered the very best counseling, coaching, legal guidance tips and other family law help for fathers. It is all based on a positive, child focused male perspective. Our services are unique. We educate you on how to effectively reach your reasonable goals by learning how to wage peace. Remember that when you Wage Peace = you are creating PEACE FOR YOUR CHILD.
All of our services including our support groups, online teleseminars /webcasts, divorce management program, counseling services, educational resources and integrated referrals to lawyers with a track record of success and experience working with fathers, we have helped a lot of fathers improve and/or win inside and outside of Family Court.
IT BEGINS WITH A SIMPLE DECISION
It all begins and ends with a simple decision: You must first believe that you can your situation better. Then with our help and resources coupled with your diligent effort and dedication to the task at hand, your belief that we can help you, plus your commitment to do what is necessary to follow the steps we outline, you can and will realize the same success that all of the other fathers we have helped over the past 15 years.
When you have a problem in life, the best course of action is to find models of success that you can learn from. It is not a time to reinvent the wheel, rather it's time to do what has worked for others...and that is what we offer you - access to this knowledge. It has taken many years of hard work, research and testing to establish create the tools and programs we have developed.
This does not work for everyone...
We cannot help everyone, remember that it all comes down to you! If you are determined to do it your way and not follow our method, if you are not willing to make the effort - we cannot help you - nobody can. You can remain stuck blaming everyone else, but the truth is that the fault lies entirely with yourself. If you keep doing things that are not working you will fail.
Please join us at a support group meeting and/ or teleseminar on Sunday night to begin learning how you can turn your situation around today.
For more information about our Services, Co-Parenting Programs, Divorce Management Programs,
please call 416-861-0626 / 1-888-54-DADDY
We have helped fathers all over the world learn the skills necessary turn their situation around and succeed. If we unable to offer you a direct referral to a lawyer where you live, we will teach you the questions and tips you will need to help you find the right lawyer. Lastly, our number one goal is to teach you how to navigate your situation to improvement and how to create a child focused plan of action and parenting plan.
Remember, the most important job
you will ever have...
is to be a dad.